Things Successful People Do on Weekends To Remain Successful

When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see?

Or have you allowed the perception of outsiders to shape your vision and determine what you see in the mirror?

You know that it is not every reflection in the mirror that is real, yeah?

Some mirrors alter the original state of a thing.

At other times, your vision is not as clear as it should be.

Now, when social media is dominating the world and it is easy to get instant feedback from people we don’t even know, it has become easier to fall into the trap of constantly worrying about what others think of us.

People are entitled to their thoughts and opinions, but preoccupying our minds with what their thoughts and opinions are can be really draining and detrimental to our mental health.

If you want to grow and become better in life, you may consider shutting out what people think about you and focusing on your personal growth and development.

7 Ways to Stop Caring What People Think of You

1. Build Self-Confidence

7 Ways to Stop Caring What People Think of You

What confidence does for you is that it makes you self-assured.

Somehow, you do not need anybody else’s validation to know your worth.

When I started building my self confidence, I used to spend time in front of the mirror every day and admire all of my features.

I started by discovering the things that are physically appealing to me.

Then I moved to discovering the things I was really good at.

I paid attention to those things that people appreciated in me and I built on it.

Over time, I became very confident.

Nobody could pull me down because of what they thought of me.

Developing a strong sense of self-confidence is very important for everyone.

Everyone will not like you.

And some people are really really mean.

So when you believe in your abilities and value yourself, the opinions of others will have less impact on you.

 

2. Focus on Your Own Values

7 Ways to Stop Caring What People Think of You

As a person, you must have the values by which you live.

You must be one who is able to offer value to anyone you meet.

Know what your core values are and stay true to them.

You cannot adjust your life every day to please people.

When you are clear about what matters most to you, the opinions of others will become less relevant.

Write down your values and refer to them whenever you feel unsure or pressured by others.

When making decisions, you should choose those that align with your values and filter out those that do not.

3. Limit Social Media Use

7 Ways to Stop Caring What People Think of You

Social media is a huge blessing to this generation.

Still, social media is a bane to society.

Many people fail to understand the correct use of social media, putting their health and well-being at risk.

A greater percentage of what people post on their social media timelines is content to make you feel good or bad.

But you go on social media and use the contents there as a yardstick to measure your success and failure, putting yourself in a state of constant depression.

Why?

If you are on social media, teach your mind not to believe everything you see there.

Filter contents as much as possible and limit your use of social media apps as much as possible.

When you begin to compare yourself to people on social media, you blind yourself against your self-worth and value.

You become unable to separate your opinion of yourself from the opinions of others about you.

Social media can get really toxic and cause major mental health challenges for people who do not have the necessary understanding of it.

4. Set Boundaries

7 Ways to Stop Caring What People Think of You

You’re not the biblical Noah who is building an ark and on a mission to save the world.

Everybody who is willing cannot have access to your life.

You should be able to decide who is allowed in and who isn’t based on your values and life’s destination.

Some of the people who you allow into your ship are heading south while your ship is sailing north.

As long as they are in there, their single goal is to turn your ship around.

So set your boundaries right.

Anyone who does not share your values should be kept at arm’s length.

You are well aware of the reason why you decided to sail north, but letting a south person in may cause you to begin to doubt yourself and your decisions.

So close them out as much as possible and with them their constant criticism and negativity.

5. Challenge Negative Thoughts

7 Ways to Stop Caring What People Think of You

Everything that happens with you begins in your mind.

If you’re able to overcome it in your mind, you can overcome it in real life.

If you want to break free from the ideas and opinions of others concerning you, you must first purge your mind of those thoughts that plagued it every now and then.

“What did people think about what I wore today?”

“How did I look today when I was talking?”

And many times, the scenarios you create in your mind to answer the question are far worse than what anybody is thinking about you.

So, if you often catch yourself worrying about what others think, challenge these thoughts.

Ask yourself if they are rational or based on assumptions.

If you find areas in your life where you need to make improvements, work on them personally based on your own findings and not on your assumptions of people’s perceptions of you.

6. Surround Yourself with Positive Influences

7 Ways to Stop Caring What People Think of You

As I mentioned earlier, when I started working on improving myself, I was surrounded by people with positive energy.

People who pointed out to me areas where I did excellently and areas where I could improve.

They usually would not criticize me or capitalize on my inabilities.

It helped me a lot with building a positive self-perception.

So yes, the people you spend time with can have a significant impact on how you perceive yourself.

They can be the reason you value yourself or why you struggle with healthy self-esteem.

So don’t be careless about your circle.

Be as intentional about it as you can get.

Surround yourself with people who will uplift and support you, rather than those who bring you down.

7. Accept That You Can’t Please Everyone

7 Ways to Stop Caring What People Think of You

Even the biblical Noah mentioned earlier, who was on a mission to save the world from destruction, barely pleased anyone—it was only members of his family and animals who accepted and took advantage of his vision to survive the world’s destruction.

So whether you like it or yes, you can’t please everyone.

Whenever you begin to feel like you are pleasing everyone, just know that you’re getting into trouble.

No matter what you do, there will always be people who disagree with or dislike you – including the people you are helping.

The earlier you accept this reality, the sooner your liberation.

Focus on being true to yourself and making decisions that align with your values, rather than trying to please everyone.

 

As soon as you stop thinking about what others are thinking of you, you begin to live your real life.

There is so much value in you that you can offer to the world.

But surrounding yourself with negative energy might just be the extinguisher that keeps quenching your fire.

Take an appraisal of yourself and realign your values to keep you confident and self-assured.

By Idy

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