I think we can all agree that being attractive is a good thing, right?
I’m not talking about the kind of attractiveness that comes from a trip to the plastic surgeon, or the kind of attractiveness that comes from wearing tons of makeup.
I’m talking about the kind of attractiveness that comes from just being… well, you.
The good news is that men are attracted to this kind of beauty!
We’ve got research to prove it.
Here are some things the experts have to say about what men find most attractive in women
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What Men Find Most Attractive In A Woman
1. How a woman moves
The next time you go to a party, observe how the women there move.
You’ll notice that some of them have an unmistakable sensuality about the way they walk and even stand.
Even if they’re not aware of it, these are the women who know how to use their bodies in a way that attracts men.
They’re not necessarily more physically attractive than other women—they just know how to command male attention with body language because they’ve mastered the art of feminine grace.
If you want to attract men, you need to start paying attention to how your body looks when you walk and sit down.
Do your movements display confidence?
Do they show that you’re comfortable in your skin? If not, pay attention to how you can improve your posture and carriage so that you look more feminine (and by extension, more attractive).
It’s also important for women who want to attract men (or anyone else) to use their facial expressions and gestures appropriately.
Exaggerated or nervous gestures send the message that a woman is uncomfortable in her own skin—the exact opposite impression she should be trying to make when it comes time for meeting people!
2. Great posture
Having good posture not only makes you look great, but it also has many health benefits.
It’s one of the first ways to show confidence in yourself and will make a world of difference in your life.
- When standing, keep your feet shoulder-width apart with your arms at your sides (without letting them hang). Hold your head up and point forward.
- Sit down with both feet flat on the ground or crossed at the ankles for women. Keep your back upright and head straight looking forward.
- When walking, keep your shoulders back and let them sway naturally as you walk with a natural stride that comes from the heel of one foot to the toe of the other foot.
The one thing men find most attractive in a woman is confidence.
By women, I include the entire female population, from teenagers to grandmothers.
Confidence, it’s the thing that all women want and all men find extra attractive.
And yet, it is something that takes a lot of work to develop. But before you can start working on being confident, you need to know what confidence actually is.
Confidence isn’t about being arrogant or thinking of yourself as better than others. It is about knowing your worth, the value that you bring to the world and trusting in yourself to make good decisions.
Arrogance on the other hand is about thinking you are better than others and that you should be treated differently because of this belief.
These two things may seem similar but they are different in very important ways.
Women who have confidence radiate an inner light that attracts men like moths to a flame. Some women are born with this light and some have to work at it.
The truth is that any woman can develop the kind of self-confidence that will make her irresistible to men – and also improve her own life in so many other ways.
How do you develop confidence?
Some people think it is about having a positive attitude or being able to communicate effectively with others.
But these things do not work unless you first develop a positive relationship with yourself!
Many people find this idea difficult, but it is crucial if you are going to be truly confident.
If you feel good about yourself, then the way you act and communicate will be more effective than if you try to pretend to be confident when really you don’t feel it inside.
4. A good handshake
Don’t go thinking that a good handshake is something you should just turn on like a faucet or, alternatively, try to keep bottled up for some mythical “important” moment.
A good handshake is about flow—it’s not about pressing hard and trying to crush your opponent’s fingers.
You don’t have to twist your elbow into an uncomfortable position just to show that you can press into their hand with more force than they’re providing.
The pressure doesn’t matter, but the grip does.
A firm handshake doesn’t mean crushing the other person’s fingers.
It means making sure they feel your strength during the shake—that they know it was a solid connection between two people and not just some limp-handed gesture that might be mistaken for a high five (or worse).
Even if you’re shy (or maybe especially if you’re shy), getting used to making eye contact during handshakes will help you build confidence in yourself as well as respect from others.
5. Honesty and kindness
We hear men say this all the time:
“Be honest with me.”
Honesty is the foundation of any good relationship.
Without honesty, a relationship cannot be trusted and you may as well just go on your way.
It’s important to keep in mind that men are attracted to women who are honest and have a good heart.
Men like it when a woman is kind and has a good heart.
We want someone who will love us for who we are and not for what we look like or how much money we make.
Men want a woman they can trust and rely on, not someone who is going to lie about where she was last night or try to make them jealous by flirting with other guys in front of them.
Men also like when women pay attention to what they’re saying instead of just nodding along with everything being said (even if it’s boring).
They want someone who will listen without judgment or criticism; this shows respect.
A woman’s kindness extends beyond just being polite: If she sees you struggling with something, she’ll offer help; if your car breaks down on the side of the road, she’ll stop her own car so that she can give you some gas money until yours runs out again later tonight…and then wait patiently by herself until help arrives (or until it’s late enough that everyone else has gone home from work).
She might even find someone else nearby willing to lend their cell phone so that you can call for assistance now rather than wait next week after the bills come due!
6. Women who smell good
Surprisingly, men are very attracted to how a woman smells.
The smell is the sense with the strongest ability to evoke memories, which is why we tend to associate certain smells with specific moments that create strong emotions in us.
So if you want him to remember you fondly for years to come, make sure you smell good.
Unfortunately for those of us who don’t have a particular scent we like on ourselves, men are drawn by the scents of vanilla and cinnamon specifically.
So if you happen to like either of these scents or know someone who does (maybe Mom or your sister), ask them what they wear so that you can find something similar.
You can also look into essential oils that contain these ingredients and apply them to yourself before heading out.
A slight hint is all you need—you don’t have to douse yourself in it!
This is because when a man sees a woman who feels confident and shows off her feminine side, she comes across as attractive and sexy.
Women who take care of themselves are perceived as desirable because they show that they are willing to invest time in their appearance, which indicates emotional availability and openness toward others (i.e., he doesn’t have to worry about her being too clingy).
7. Bright eyes
People say that the eyes are windows to the soul.
They’re also a great deal more—they’re the first thing anyone notices about you, and they can convey a wide range of emotions in an instant.
No one is going to see you as approachable if your eyes are hidden behind dark circles and downcast lids. You need bright, clear, sparkling eyes!
To achieve bright eyes, be sure to moisturize your skin around them with a quality eye cream or lotion for at least one month before your big day or event.
Avoid sleeping less than seven hours per night during this time frame.
Makeup artists have some great tips on how to create the illusion of bigger eyes—see if you can get some help from one.
Apply mascara and eyeliner correctly so that it enhances your look rather than detracts from it. If you don’t know how to do that, ask someone who does!
8. S*xy lingerie
It is true that men enjoy a woman who is s*xy and confident.
However, you don’t have to overdress to be confident.
If you don’t feel comfortable on a date because your outfit is too revealing, then it’s best to wear something more conservative.
Don’t wear something that makes you uncomfortable or doesn’t fit well; if you do, chances are you won’t look good in it anyway.
One place where women can go wrong is in their lingerie selection; it’s not about showing off what your mama gave you, but rather accentuating the positives and hiding the negatives.
The right piece of lingerie will make you feel both confident and sexy—and that’s what really turns men on!
9. A smart sense of humour
“I love a woman with a great sense of humour,” says actor John Cusack.
He’s not alone in his sentiments.
From scientists to comedians, many men have weighed in on what women find most attractive.
The good news is that the experts agree: being able to laugh at yourself is one of the most important factors when it comes to attracting men.
Despite what you may think, not all guys are looking for supermodels with brains the size of peanuts.
According to comedian and author Steve Harvey, men also want women who will be upfront, honest and caring — but if you can make them laugh while doing it, even better!
10. When a woman smiles
You can’t have a conversation with someone who doesn’t smile.
A beautiful smile is the most attractive thing there is about a woman.
It doesn’t matter how stylish you are, you’re not going to be as attractive to him if you don’t have that warm and welcoming smile.
It’s like when he smiles back at you, it warms up your entire relationship, and it’s the thing that will keep both of you smiling all day long!
Sure, looks are important in a woman, but what men find most attractive in women are their qualities. A man’s initial attraction to you comes from your appearance and personality. If he finds you attractive, he’ll be motivated to pursue you. If you’re sexy and confident, but also honest and kind, that’s a combination that will definitely pique his interest.
The main thing is to be yourself because men can sense if it’s not genuine. Just like women are attracted to a man who is real (not a phoney), men can see right through us when we aren’t being our authentic selves.
Let your inner beauty shine so he feels it right away when he meets you!